Well I guess it is finally time to tell the story of the first kiss. To truly understand why I didn't want to kiss Katie right off the bat, you need to know a few things about me. First is that I used to be a player. I think It was towards the end of 8th grade..... (mom you might be hearing this for the first time, so I'm sorry in advance) I went to a party with a good friend of mine, and I loved going to parties with him. There were usually some pretty fun people to hang out with. This time was not an exception, and there were two girls in particular which hung around me the entire night. Before this night I had kissed girls before, and I thought I might kiss one of them, but they had something else in mind. This is really silly and dumb, but I suggesting that instead of choosing on of them, they could share...... So we played a kissing game, and I spent some time kissing these two girls.
That story, along with the fact that by the time I entered my sophomore year of high school and couldn't count the girls I had kissed on my fingers or toes, made me start analyzing the way I viewed women. Other than the way I handled relationships, I think I was respectful to women, but I realized that if I weren't careful, I was going to grow up not respecting women, and the wonderful relationship I would one day build with a spouse. So it was my sophomore year that I decided to change my game plan, and only kiss girls when It meant something. I can say that I made it through the rest of my high school career having only kissed one girl. Partly because I dated the same girl for about a year, and during senior year I was focused on getting into BYU, playing varsity football, working, and preparing to go on a two year mission trip. Side note... Norway was amazing (the place I served my mission).
Back to tell the story of our first kiss now. I think Katie and I had been dating/hanging out for 3 or 4 weeks now, and I hadn't kissed her by this point because I was nervous. I had starting having real feelings for her before, but I didn't want to start a relationship without being sure it was what I wanted to do. It was almost like I knew that this relationship had a lot of potential, and that I had to be ready to face the consequences.
The night started out with a little bowling with my brother Hansen and his wife Angie. I had actually taking a different girl bowling with them when I first moved to Utah, and she didn't quite get Hansen and Angie's approval. I knew going into this, that Katie might or might not pass the test. We met at the Miracle Bowl, home of Wednesday night dollar bowling, and got underway. I was really impressed with how quick Katie was to integrate herself in the group, and the transition of being a fun group of people took little to no time at all.
At one point another couple that both Hansen and I knew from the young single adult congregation that we both attended before getting married, showed up and joined us. It was all fun and games until they started sharing stories about how after two weeks of dating, they were teased about getting married, and now laughed because it happened. Well since Katie and I had only been officially "dating", not just hanging out, for 2 weeks, I tensed up at the story. Surprisingly enough it wasn't because I was nervous about the idea or had any other thoughts, but I realized then, that I was nervous because I didn't want them to scare Katie away. I knew we would date longer than this couple, and be engaged longer if anything happened, but I still didn't want them to scare her. Katie took both that, and getting beat in stride though, and we had a fun time.
We also went to Hansen and Angie's after to play Cranium. Hansen and Katie vs. Angie and me. We lost, but I wasn't too worried about it. Katie had to leave the night with at least some sort of victory. Even though kissing her was probably victory enough. On the way to taking Katie home, I decided I was going to kiss her. I became motivated by the awesomeness she just is, by how she got along with my family, and by the realization I had about my desire for her to not get freaked out by the other couples conversation.
When we pulled up to her apartment complex, I was nervous. I mean, how do you kiss a girl the first time so that its romantic. I decided that I would just let it ride, and then my moment would arrive. We hugged and then we talked, and then my nervousness escaped me when I started making fun of myself and my squinty eyes. Then I just did it. I pulled back from a hug, looked into her beautiful green eyes for a few moments, told her how beautiful they were, studied them for a little longer, and then I "kissed her in a style Clark Gable would have admired".
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Mystery Science theater
This entry might be pretty good. The most stressful/exciting part of a new relationship for me is breaking the touch barrier. Once I have found my niche I have no problem showing affection through touch, but the initial stages are soooo hard for me. To continue on with this amazing story I have been sharing with you, I will tell you how I broke the touch barrier.
Katie really likes the mystery science theater movies, while I am more partial to the Riff Trax version of making fun of terrible movies. Well we got talking about it one day, and she told me she had a Mystery Science Theater movie, and wanted to watch it (she was practically asking me out on a date but wanted me to say when=P). So I gave her a date, but was honestly worried about how it was going to go down. The problem was that I lived in my grandparents basement, I loved it, but you never know how a girl is going to react to that, especially when you have 4 other cousins living with you. Thankfully this night, Martin, Duncan, Jeffery, and Mitch were all either out, or in their rooms studying, or playing games. Tonight I was going to get my cuddle on!
I picked up Katie, brought her to the house, and then started setting up the movie. We did hit a little speed bump with my DVD player being programmed to play region 2 DVD's (so I can watch my European DVD's), so we had to reprogram it to region 1 before we could start. We also decided to make some popcorn so we did have to make a trip upstairs to the popcorn maker. Grandma was of course in her natural habitat (the kitchen, making food for either grandpa, a child, or a grandchild(we have tried to stop her, it doesn't work)), and was very excited to meet Katie. Her eyes lit up, and was so eager to teach Katie and I how to make popcorn. I was impressed again with how nice Katie is with everyone she meets, but I also noticed something else. Like me, she does not like to be told how to do something she thinks she can already do. She never said or did anything, but, as someone in her same position, I could tell it kind of irked her.
We were finally able to start watching the movie, and unlike most people, I don't let the awkward elephant just sit in the middle of the room, I talk about it. So I sat like a foot away from her and told her that I was going to sit that far apart from her the entire time just to make it awkward. I think Katie took me seriously at first, because she seemed a little bummed out. We talked of course and at one point she took a couch pillow to snuggle with. I had my plan, I was going to break the touch barrier with a pillow. If I took it away from her I knew I she would fight to have it back. In the end she didn't put up much of a fight, she just grabbed a hold of it, and when I wouldn't let go, just layed on my lap. As time went by we eventually got into your typical head on the shoulders snuggling. She just fit. I don't know how to describe it, but most people know what I am talking about. Sometimes you try snuggling with someone, and it just doesn't seam right, or its good, or its OK. Well Katie fit perfect. I enjoyed just cuddling with her, and the movie for the most part. It would have been better if I didn't have a voice in the back of my head questioning why I was trying to start another relationship again (I had shortly before decided to stop dating for a while, and just enjoy college single life).
After the movie, I took Katie home, and I bet Katie wishes that was the end of it........ When we got to her apartment, I got out of the car to say good bye, and gave her a hug. Before this our hugs were pretty business like: get in get out. Well this hug lingered a little, and was a little bit more like hey I'm starting to care for you. I guess for Katie though it was like, "I want you!" It might not have been that bad, but after we embraced she started to ask me if she could have a kiss! I felt like a champion! I didn't want to yet though, because I really like kissing, and I kind of made a habit of kissing for fun during my freshman year of high school. Even though I liked kissing, I also like really having feelings for a girl, and I wanted to have those feelings for Katie before I kissed her. That's what I told her, and it has worked out for me, so no regrets.
Plus it was only a week or two later that I finally kissed her.
Katie really likes the mystery science theater movies, while I am more partial to the Riff Trax version of making fun of terrible movies. Well we got talking about it one day, and she told me she had a Mystery Science Theater movie, and wanted to watch it (she was practically asking me out on a date but wanted me to say when=P). So I gave her a date, but was honestly worried about how it was going to go down. The problem was that I lived in my grandparents basement, I loved it, but you never know how a girl is going to react to that, especially when you have 4 other cousins living with you. Thankfully this night, Martin, Duncan, Jeffery, and Mitch were all either out, or in their rooms studying, or playing games. Tonight I was going to get my cuddle on!
I picked up Katie, brought her to the house, and then started setting up the movie. We did hit a little speed bump with my DVD player being programmed to play region 2 DVD's (so I can watch my European DVD's), so we had to reprogram it to region 1 before we could start. We also decided to make some popcorn so we did have to make a trip upstairs to the popcorn maker. Grandma was of course in her natural habitat (the kitchen, making food for either grandpa, a child, or a grandchild(we have tried to stop her, it doesn't work)), and was very excited to meet Katie. Her eyes lit up, and was so eager to teach Katie and I how to make popcorn. I was impressed again with how nice Katie is with everyone she meets, but I also noticed something else. Like me, she does not like to be told how to do something she thinks she can already do. She never said or did anything, but, as someone in her same position, I could tell it kind of irked her.
We were finally able to start watching the movie, and unlike most people, I don't let the awkward elephant just sit in the middle of the room, I talk about it. So I sat like a foot away from her and told her that I was going to sit that far apart from her the entire time just to make it awkward. I think Katie took me seriously at first, because she seemed a little bummed out. We talked of course and at one point she took a couch pillow to snuggle with. I had my plan, I was going to break the touch barrier with a pillow. If I took it away from her I knew I she would fight to have it back. In the end she didn't put up much of a fight, she just grabbed a hold of it, and when I wouldn't let go, just layed on my lap. As time went by we eventually got into your typical head on the shoulders snuggling. She just fit. I don't know how to describe it, but most people know what I am talking about. Sometimes you try snuggling with someone, and it just doesn't seam right, or its good, or its OK. Well Katie fit perfect. I enjoyed just cuddling with her, and the movie for the most part. It would have been better if I didn't have a voice in the back of my head questioning why I was trying to start another relationship again (I had shortly before decided to stop dating for a while, and just enjoy college single life).
After the movie, I took Katie home, and I bet Katie wishes that was the end of it........ When we got to her apartment, I got out of the car to say good bye, and gave her a hug. Before this our hugs were pretty business like: get in get out. Well this hug lingered a little, and was a little bit more like hey I'm starting to care for you. I guess for Katie though it was like, "I want you!" It might not have been that bad, but after we embraced she started to ask me if she could have a kiss! I felt like a champion! I didn't want to yet though, because I really like kissing, and I kind of made a habit of kissing for fun during my freshman year of high school. Even though I liked kissing, I also like really having feelings for a girl, and I wanted to have those feelings for Katie before I kissed her. That's what I told her, and it has worked out for me, so no regrets.
Plus it was only a week or two later that I finally kissed her.
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